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The Key to a Healthy Relationship Depend on your Pattern of Love

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happy_realtionshipDo you feel you are unsuccessful at love?  Do you make the same mistakes in love over and over again? Do you always seem to pick the wrong partner or always experience the same negative romantic outcome? If so, and you want a different outcome you need to understand your developmental history of love and break the pattern, according to Dr. Mark Beitel, a licensed clinical psychologist and psychotherapist at Greenwich Hospital’s Center for Integrative Medicine in Cos Cob, CT.

“Certain conditions for loving, and being loved, are created and then maintained across a person’s lifespan,” explains Beitel. “Negative life experiences can damage the developing capacity for love. People get stuck because the conditions that they have set up for loving tend to operate just outside of awareness.”

We all yearn for the kind of love that works. In fact, the very experience of loving is good for your health. Beitel explains that brain chemicals like oxytocin and endorphins are released during the experience of love. These substances are associated with pleasure and well-being.

The Path to Happier Relationships

There are simple ways to put yourself on the path for a healthy happy love life and more satisfying personal relationships. Start by taking better care of yourself. “It is much easier to develop the capacity to love yourself and others when your biology is in balance,” says Beitel, who works with patients on their mental health while encouraging them to seek help with exercise and nutrition as well.

One way to iron out the developmental wrinkles in the capacity for love is simply to practice mindfulness. Mindfulness means being more present, or mindful, in everyday life. “Mindfulness can also help us to see our loved ones as they are rather than as we want them to be. Negative expectations run outside of awareness, so increasing mindfulness gives them less room to operate. Seeing others clearly reduces the confusion, biases, and inappropriate expectations that prevent us from connecting authentically,” says Beitel. Psychotherapy is designed to help a person become aware of repeating negative expectations about love and to correct them so that a more enjoyable love life can be pursued.

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